How To Rule Your Life

In philosophy rules are norms of how you ought to feel, believe or act.

Rules are not necessarily right or the truth. Rules are what the majority prefers you to do if you want to belong to the norm.

This is important to understand, because if you do not want to follow the rules given by the majority in your network, then you will be perceived as being abnormal and you will feel outside. There is nothing wrong about that if that makes you happy. But if you want to belong to a specific network or if you need something in life, then you have to learn the rules to get where you want.

I find most rules ridiculous and I have made up my own rules of life, but it made my life extremely difficult and lonely. I decided to learn the rules, but on my own premises and that really turned my life around. I am now a part of a large network and I feel more successful.

You can learn the rules as well and still be happy. You have probably met people in your life that do strange things or thing that seem abnormal. How did these people make you feel? Did they make you feel safe or comfortable? Usually people doing things we are not used to, makes us feel uncomfortable. Maybe they make us laugh or maybe they evoke our curiosity, but would we trust them right away? No, we would not! Since lack of trust is connected to anxiety and fear, we will take distance to people that act different than expected by the norm. No matter how open-minded we are, we will unconsciously take distance. This way we will push people that act different to the rim of our social network. Do not feel bad about this it is a natural mechanism of our body’s system of defence. You just need to understand how this system works to rule your own life.